quote of the day

“There is luxury in self-reproach.
When we blame ourselves,
we feel no one else has a right to blame us.” 

 — Oscar Wilde

  
Ah, Oscar!  Right on the money, as always.  

I do get so cross at some peoples' pre-emptive apologetic strikes, and have been wondering why that sort of apology bothers me so much . . . . I think it is their assumption (however unspoken or unconscious) that I am blaming (and by extension, attacking) them; makes me feel unjustly accused, and somewhat inclined to snap rather than soothe, unless I know them very well.

I must strive to be a Better Person.  And I do. 

But I don't suppose you self-reproachers would consider making it easier on some of us?

Never apologize; never explain!

You'd be surprised.